Saturday, July 28, 2007

Is keeping secrets really difficult......????

It is rightly said that one can share any secret with a true friend. Your true friend may know your deepest fears and weaknesses and yet will never take advantage of you. However, keeping a friend's secrets to yourself and not telling the world about is what makes the bond grow strong and last forever. You need to develop a trust and mutual understanding before you start sharing secrets with each other. With friends, secret talks never seem to end and it can get really amusing to know what has been going on in your friend's mind.

Guarding a secret is the same as guarding one’s chastity. Those who keep a secret, whether personal or a friend’s, keep themselves chaste. Conversely, those who spread secrets damage their honor and reputation by leaving them unguarded. I recently came across a blog wherein the blogger in the form of her views or perspectives revealed the personal life of her so called best friend…!!

So, here is my advice for the friend of blogger… If you want to tell someone a secret, be sure that you could trust him or her with your honor. He or she must be as meticulous about keeping your secret as he or she would be about his or her own honor. An unreliable person, one who is ignorant of the value of chastity, should not be entrusted with keeping your secret.

Keeping a secret and respecting the secrets of others, as opposed to prying into them, is a virtue related to self-discipline and sensitivity. Those who lack understanding cannot guard a secret, and those who do not care about the consequences of words and actions cannot be considered discreet.

It is usually wiser not to relate your private concerns to others. To do so can embarrass loved ones and delight enemies, and have other unpleasant consequences as well.

Hearts are created as safes for keeping secrets. Intelligence is their lock; will-power is their key. No one can break into the safe and steal its valuables if the lock or key are not faulty.

Bear in mind that those who carry others’ secrets to you might bear yours to others. Do not give such tactless people any chance to learn even the smallest details of your private concerns.

If you entrust another secret to someone who previously disclosed one, your lack of perception and poor judgment in choosing a confidant is plain for all to see. One whose own heart is firm on this matter and who is vigilant cannot be deceived and seduced repeatedly in this way.

By disclosing a personal secret, you are interfering with a person’s honor; by disclosing a family secret, you are interfering with the family’s honor. A secret is a power only as long as it stays with its owner, but is a weapon that may be used against its owner if it passes into the hands of others. This is the meaning of one of our traditional sayings: “The secret is your slave, but you become its slave if you disclose it.”

Explain what you must, but never give away all of your secrets. Those who freely publicize the secrets of their hearts drag themselves toward an inevitable downfall, but be very sure of trusting anyone before sharing your personal life with anyone.

5 comments:

Alok said...
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Alok said...

well said

Luke Wanderer said...

That example of the blabbering friend is one reason why i dont have close friends.

Its not easy to trust someone.

:D

Nicely penned down thoughts btw.

Vidhi said...

I believe u can always find a close friend among the blabering crowd... i knw its not easy to trust someone... but its not impossible as well.. u can always find people who understands you...!! :D

Luke Wanderer said...

Do you really believe it to be that easy??

I beg to differ.

Maybe thats my attitude towards life and things.

:)