I Miss..

=> Chatting with my mom till I fell asleep during nights.. and bothering her with my gossips even when she's damn tired and wanted to sleep..

=> The ‘She’s My Girl’ look on my dad’s face whenever I did something great..

=> The fights with my bro… (I don’t understand why do we have to stop fighting after we get married.. shouldn’t it be a ‘must have’ for this relationship forever?!)...

=> Playing with my sweet little niece and nephews ‘Manas and Runjhun’.. (And of course scolding them for no reason :P.. )

=> My dad's lap whenever I am tired (I just wonder at times.. did he really never get frustrated with all those tantrums of mine or is it just that they didn’t show)..

=> Meeting my friends whenever I wanted to..

=> Crying whenever I wanted to (I guess that’s a part of growing up…)

=> Being the ‘pampered-tantrum throwing-spoilt brat’...

=> Those little surprises by Tuts. (He hardly does any of those now.. :P)..

=> My college life — every emotion – anger, fear, anxiety, joy, sadness, hurt, loneliness and still knowing that life couldn’t have been better.. And much more......

Eight months of absolute bliss!!

I know this is the most cliche sentence I can say but still I’ll say it... It seems like yesterday that we got married... doesn’t feel like eight months by any stretch of imagination!!! And its so overwhelming to remember each of those special moments that we witnessed in this period... The SMS fight just before you reached the wedding venue, my first day at your place, the honeymoon and so many other trips, the fights, the disagreements and the warmth on solving those disagreements, understanding and knowing each other more and more everyday, the good, bad and ugly times...aah... i can go on and on and on...

Its unbelievable for me and for others who know me... to see that someone has tolerated me for so long... and that without many grins :) I know how impossible I get at times... I also know how nasty I get at times but then again, I ove doing that also :D

On a more serious note, I still believe that I couldn’t have been luckier... coz you are the best for me :) I love you... :) more than you will ever know... more than I can ever say... and though it seems like yesterday when we got married... I can’t imagine my life without you! You’re a sweetheart tuts! :)

I am irritated!!

Today, my soul just feels a little irritated...somewhat like my mood today. I have no idea, but I am in a “mood.” Every little thing is annoying me. I got on thoughts to read some blogs to lift my spirits, but it actually has had the opposite effect. Have you ever had a day, you just want to crawl back under the covers and stay in bed. If I could, that is exactly what I would do right now, but don’t know for what reason, I am not able to do that…

I would love to say that my mood has improved just by writing down my thoughts, but I would be lying. Guess it was just one of those days....I really hate days like today!!!!!

Funny Proposal - Attempt 1

On public demand, here I am posting the first attempt of Funny proposal made by Mr Ashiq (a.k.a. Karan), after visiting the Facebook profile of a friend..
Here it goes and hold your stomach.. lol

"Subject: SHAADI KAROGE..I M SERIOUS TRUST ME..
ohhh...my gawd...seriously yaar..i mean..u knw..kya yaar...U REALLY LUK....BINDAAZ....kash kash kash...tum meri GF hoti...anywaz jokes apart..u really luk cute...okay nw..tel m if a person luk cute/bindaaz/bla bla...wat is d procedure 2 knw tht person more..????????is there any FORMS...hmm..shaAdi karoge.???
AS A HUMAN PLZ REPLY BAK..$hhhhhh STRESS ON D WORD \"HUMAN\" SO PLZ REPLY...
regards
karan"

Wat a serious attempt.. hats off of Mr Karan J :D :D

Funny Proposal - Attempt 2

As love is already in the Air everywhere, valentine is approaching, one of my friend received following message from an unknown sender on her facebook account… It’s so damn funny.. just couldn't stop myself from laughing..

“Re: SHAADI KAROGE..I M SERIOUS TRUST ME..

THTS MY 2ND MESSEGE..CNT U REPLY...

ok fine let m gve u my intro...WAIT..sit properly..ya nw its okay..NO WAIT..tie ur hairs..and PLZ DNT MAKE FACES..U R NT LUKIN GUD...LOL

wel i m into business...my parants stays in abroad mostly....AND V R THREE MEMBERS...ME,DAD AND MOM...AND I M VRY DECENT,INNOCENT,CUTE..AAP KI KASAM...Ahhh..again making faces..but dis time u r lukin gud...GO AHEAD...wel in delhi i stay in sainik farms...vry new in dis city..WESE I WAS FRM CHANDGRH..and i really wanna knw u ...

OK LETS DO ONETHNG...START EXCHANGING MESsEGES THROUGH FACEBOOK..AND WHN U TRUST M 25%..THN WILL START SMS CHATTING...AND WHN U TRUST ME 50%...THN WILL START TALKIN ON PHNE...AND WHN U TRUST ME 75% THN WILL GO 4 A DATE...BAKI 25% U WILL KNW ME AFTER SHAADI...SO THT U CN SAY KARAN U HAVE CHANGED A LOT...LOLZ..KIDDIN...


so tel m kuch aapne bare mai...wht u do..where u put up??

ITS ME..!!!!as pure as bisleri...”

I am sure you must be laughing out loud after reading this.. Rolling on the Floor Laughing :D :D

How it changed...

Good read..

Here I am sitting in my office...
Thinking hard about life…
How it changed from a maverick college life to strict professional life??

How tiny pocket money changed to good monthly paychecks ??
But then why it gives less happiness??

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobe??
But then why there are less people to use them??

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burger??
But then why there is less hunger??

Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life...
How it changed....

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee day??
But then why its feels like shop is far away??

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid package??
But then why there are less calls & more messages??

Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life..
How it changed??

How a general class journey changed to Flight journey??
But then why there are less vacations for enjoyment??

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptop??
But then why there is less time to put it on??

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mate??
But then why we always feel lonely n miss those college frnz??
Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed….. How it changed……..

On the Track..

Got to read the following excerpt from one of my favorite books "The Zahir" by Paulo Cohelo... and thought of sharing it at my blog.. and, here it goes..

“I went to a train station today and learned that the distance between railway tracks is always 143.5 centimeters or 4 feet 8.1/2 inches. Why this absurd measurement? I asked my girlfriend to find out and this is what she discovered. When they built the first train carriages, they used the same tools as they had for building horse-drawn carriages. And why that distance between the wheels on carriages? Because that was the width of the old roads along which the carriages had to travel. And who decided that roads should be that width? Well, suddenly, we are plunged back into the distant past. It was the Romans, the first great road-builders, who decided to make their roads that width. And why? Because there chariots were pulled by two horses, and when placed side by side, the horses they used at the time took up 143.5 cm.

So the distance between the tracks I saw today used by our state-of- the- art high-speed (French) trains, was determined by the Romans. When people went to the United States and started building railways there, it didn’t occur to them to change the width and so it stayed as it was. This even affected the building of space shuttles. American engineers thought the fuel tanks should be wider, but the tanks were built in Utah and had to be transported by train to the Space Center in Florida, and the tunnels couldn’t take anything wider. And so they had to accept the measurement that the Romans had decided as the ideal. But what has all this to do with marriage?

I paused. It has everything to do with marriage… At some point in history, someone turned up and said: when two people get married, they must stay frozen like that for the rest of their lives. You will move along side by side like two tracks, keeping always that same distance apart. Even if sometimes one of you needs to be a little further away or a little closer, that is against the rules. The rules say: be sensible, think of the future, think of your children.

You cant change, you must be like two railway tracks that remain the same distance apart all the way from their point of departure to their destination. The rules don’t allow for love to change, or to grow at the start and diminish halfway through – it is too dangerous. And so, after the enthusiasm of the first few years, they maintain the same distance, the same solidity, the same functional nature. Your purpose is to allow the train bearing the survival of the species to head off into the future: your children will only be happy if you stay just as you were – 143.5 cm. apart!!

If you are not happy with something that never changes, think of them, think of the children you brought into the world. Think of your neighbours. Show them that you are happy, eat roast beef on Sundays, watch television, help the community. Think of society: dress in such a way that everyone knows you are in perfect harmony Never glance to the side, someone might be watching you, and that could bring temptation, it could mean divorce, crisis, depression. Smile in all the photos. Put the photos in the living room, so that everyone can see them. ….. but never forget, these rules were established long ago and must be respected. Who established these rules? That doesn’t matter. Don’t question them, because they will always apply, even if you don’t agree with them.”

Well…to be honest…I don’t really want to agree with the writer here. Yes, the rules used to be those… till sometime back. But not anymore. With changing times, people are becoming sensible enough to think of themselves and their happiness before thinking of the 'society'. That doesn’t mean we ignore the society completely…not here in India for sure… but things are definitely changing. We are moving towards more of a WIN-WIN situation.. Aren't we?

I am married!!

I've written about a lot of things on my blog that I felt were important (and unimportant too) to me, so it's something of an uncanny feeling to know that I'm writing about the one that's the most important thing I've ever written. I got married, yeah I know I’m late in writing this… its been over a month that I got married. I so wanted to write this post but couldn’t do so earlier.. thinking that its always better late than never.. here it starts..

My hubby's name (yeah hubby!) is Saurabh Tuteja (I call him Tutu as many of his friends) Many of you who know me in person have met him and know of him.

It's hard to find words to describe something as amazing as what this past month and half was like for me. The funny thing about life is that the most profound things are often the most banal. Our story is unique and at the same time exactly the same as every love story that's ever been. Though this was the most personal thing I've ever been through, it's one of the few events so universal that almost everyone understands it. And I wish everyone could have the happiness we do, and could have as much fun as we've been having.

But there are the parts that are uniquely us, maybe even some ideas that might inspire other people who wrestle with the everyday details of relationships, commitment, family, friendship, and marriage. I don't intend to write about what he means to me, because some things are just for us.

So how did I get to this point? Growing up, I didn't understand marriage in the same way as my peers. My parents basically had an arranged marriage, which gave me a vastly different perspective on the path to commitment. (Arranged marriages aren't quite as exotic as most people seem to think: Being set up with someone who shares your economic, cultural, religious, and social background is pretty much a universal tendency, whether the setup happens through one's parents, a temple mixer, or on any shaadi.com.)

The defining trait of marriage in these contexts is that the commitment comes first. It doesn't occur to most people to get upset that they don't get to choose their siblings; You just love your brother or sister, or you try to, and you fight sometimes and you disagree, and then you get over it, and that's what family is about. And in some ways, marriage can be like that, too. There's a liberation in knowing you don't have an easy out: You know you're going to make it work, and you're not going to give up.

So one of the great things about having had the perspective of another culture's look at marriage was realizing that there's a freedom in knowing you can always count on the commitment as a framework that you work within. The absence of that immutable commitment was the thing I most lamented and was dismayed by in so many of the marriages I saw growing up. And it made it easier to know when I was ready and that I'd found the right person who shared that desire, even in a thoroughly Indian context.

Once you get to the point where you know you're ready to get married, though, there's a lot of logistics. And I think it's probably stressful for most people. Everything I'd seen on television or movies or magazines seemed so much more focused on people getting "weddinged" than on getting married. If you tell people you're engaged, they start talking to you about that one day, and almost never about the other half century you're signing up for.

The sad truth is, when it comes time to get married, people talk about arbitrary (or tacky!) traditions and what kind of dessert you're going to have and who's sitting at what table. But they don't talk about whether the couple really tells each other the truth, whether they share the same opinion about family and things. If those things don't sound romantic to you, then maybe you're not doing it right.

I've been married of just one and a half month; I won't pretend that I can give anybody advice on married life. But I've already seen what's worked to get me to a commitment and a love I never thought I'd find. I've learned that, when you're doing things right, starting a life together as a couple can be fun and enjoyable and downright simple.

And perhaps just as importantly, I learned that you can define love and life on your own terms. Our families and friends came together to bring us together. And in the end, that inspiration is what we're trying to honor by making this step together.

Among the many things that were said, some of the words that a dear friend shared struck me as the best lesson I learned in getting married. And like I said, it could seem simple, even obvious, when you read it on a screen, because it's so universal. But when you live it and make a public commitment to it, it becomes downright profound.

What he told is that, in the end, only love matters. Success and fame and wealth and even health all fade in time, and in the end all you have is love. And love is what matters. I hope everyone in the world gets the chance to discover that in the way that I have. I love you, Tutu.

Going back to memory lanes..

This post is solely dedicated to my brother.. mera bhai :-)

Today…while searching for some files in my system I got this song in some folder.. “Afreen Afreen” by Nurat fateh ali khan.. guess its been one of the most popular songs by Nurat Fateh ali khan..



listening to this song took me back into memory lanes..

its been a thing of over 15 years.. when I was in my middle school and my brother in his late teens.. on some diwali…(its been a culture for a long to buy some new electronics over diwali in our family) we got a new samsung music system (CD Player), I don’t remember the exact specs of that one of the most special electronic gazette that we bought… but the thing I remember is that it was damn close to him as well as me.. so you must be wondering where the connection of this song.. “Afreen” and this music system and the attachment comes between.. we got a pack of over 20 cd’s FREE with that music system… (p.s. digital form of music were rare that time, and cd’s were quite expensive as per our budget) and out of those 20 cd’s one compact disc had this song.. and my brother used to play this song at highest possible volume almost daily in the morning while he gets ready for his college and me getting ready for school irritating our mother and our neighbors and I used to love that like anything.. I guess my passion of listening music at a high volume comes hereditary… and that music system still lies in my mom’s bed room in a non-working condition as expected… :P as we could never find courage or time :-P whatever your say.. to throw that out.. :-)

Luv u bro.. miss those amazing days… :-(

Looking at myself..

Some people can just find reasons to celebrate out of nothing and others (like me) keep sulking and cribbing and remain upset and worried and anxious even when life gives them a reason good enough to celebrate or rather have a bashing celebration!!! I am just hating it and the worst is that I know it the but I am not doing anything about it (apart from posting this rant here) and I don’t even understand why I am not doing anything about it!

I just don’t feel like celebrating… why? I just don’t know! But I know this is not the best thing to do… this is not the best of behaviors… and this is not how I have ever wanted to be! I have always wanted to be and have been the one to show others every minutest reason to smile, to feel good, to celebrate. I remember how often I used to use the phrase ‘C’mon, lets go out and have fun’… And haven’t I always believed that it’s important to celebrate every small occasion with a lot of passion to appreciate small things in life which are apparently more important than the so-called ‘big’ ones!

And I remember sending cards and flowers and SMSes I don’t know what all to people to celebrate li’l things like rose day/b’day/promotions/v day/friendship day and every other ‘day’ on the planet, to make them smile when they are feeling down for no reason, to wish good luck, or sometimes just wishing a smile for someone to make the day special… then why the hell can’t I do it for myself? Why can’t I celebrate my small but special moments/days… why can’t I smile for the same things when the happen with me, on which I like making others smile? I wonder where will I land up in life with so many ‘whys’… and today I am forcing myself to have fun.. m planning a vacation thinking that it might help me come out of this irritation..

This is not funny at all…. especially knowing myself, knowing how much I have always cared for these ‘may be stupid’ things…. and right now I feel like laughing at myself… It seems like life is telling me… look you idiot…how you used to waste time on these stupid things…and like a small child I am telling it that those things were not stupid… they were always worth that celebration… and then.. it just laughs at me.. and I keep standing with my head down…

I am just plain, simple irritated right now… not with anyone else but myself… I don’t have to do this to myself!

Again ranting time..

Yes, I am irritated again. Like really bad! I am having bad mood swings… nothing special really.. its just that time!

But right now everything seem so wrong…and at this point, I am capable of grumbling over just about anything…like the wind blowing or the sun shining or the mountains not moving or the sky not being pink or the water being wet or the Earth being round or whatever!

I hate it. I hate these oscillations in my freaking head! But as always writing helps… and am feeling little better already but then people…still beware of me today!

Plzzzzzzzz.......... Someone help me smile…!!!

Human emotions..

For sometime, i had a feeling that the most devastating human emotion is loneliness and it could be a real dangerous suffering. We are humans filled with emotions and we need to care for others and want to be cared by someone. Caring is a basic need and it is as important as food and water...

In today's busy world, the only reason we are more lonely is because we are turning into a rude, negative society. Have you ever given a thought that we aren't that friendly and personable, and negativity just jumps directly from one person to the other. Why don't we smile with our eyes? And, why don’t we really like many people. Universal law demands that we receive exactly is what we give out. Negativity attracts negative energy so things only get worse.

With modern communication channels i.e., e-mail, SMSing and instant messaging, we hardly get a chance to meet face to face anymore, and precisely this is the reason of our disappearing social skills. The real smiley's have turned into the messenger smiles and are often used to soften a rude remark by most of the people.

People who bluntly write things which probably they would never say face-to-face, make a good use of Blogs and bring out the worst. Manners have taken a flying leap and mean rudeness has become the false metaphore of honesty. How many blogs you read have a blunt statement right up front warning the Dear Reader, don’t u like it, you can get the F out. Rudeness gathers its own around and each tries to outdo the other. No wonder, we call this modern communication. ;-)

Just as a flutter of a butterfly wing in one part of the world changes the weather in the opposite hemisphere, a single frown or a smile can affect the world around you. I have started realising that how my closeones get affected with a frown on my face and same applies to smiles as well.. it does wonders at times.. :-) One in all, i would say Negative and positive energy are powerful natural forces, and we aren’t smart enough to take advantage of them. The idea that humans can change the world through their thoughts may be too ‘new-age’ for many, but think about it honestly before brushing it away. After all, it’s been working since the beginning of time.

Coming back on the personal front.. what one should do on a lonely day...?? What i generally do is that I try my experiment on a lonely day... I try to listen to only upbeat, happy music, or accentuate the positive in everything. I want to try to eliminate all negative thinking for that lonely day, Smile with my eyes, voice, and mouth. Or i would love to take a few moments to quiet the chaos within by gazing at beauty or just remember the moments of fun... and let that feeling flow through me... wish i could ever do so.. but frankly speaking even the thought of having a lonely day is scary in itself but that's life.. it happens.. you do feel lonely at times..

It is obvious that you can’t erase years of negative thinking from your psyche in a few hours but i believe its worth given a try... after all its all in the mind.. :-)

Sunday Morning SMS…

Having caught a sleep of over 14 hours on Saturday night, Yeah, it was a dream come true for me as for over a fortnight I have not able to catch a sleep of more than 5 hours in a 24 hr day. And, that stretched schedule was so damn tiring that this much sleep was very much needed. I was little relaxed when I woke up on the Sunday morning. As soon as I switched my cell phone in the morning, my phone beeped twice of an SMS (actually 2 messages), sent by my nephew and a friend. (Note: the SMS and the timings were absolutely same; I found it little strange as other than some special days like Diwali or New Year or be it Valentine’s day, such coincidences hardly happens).

The SMS was: “Worst thing in life is ATTACHMENT because it hurts when u lose it. Best thing in life is LONELINESS it teaches u everything & when u lose it, u get everything.”

My first reaction after reading that SMS was that: Don’t you get Attachment when you loose Loneliness... I agree there are other options than getting attached to people… but is it really possible? We do get attached and that disattachment time (if it ever comes) do hurt…!!

When you lose loneliness, you gain attachment and vice-versa… so you can’t have just one. In life, there will be happy moments as well as sad ones and happiness won’t mean anything without those sad moments.

Recalling the below said lines... which I read somewhere long time back..
Life is like a mystery!! It unfolds with its own time… It’s like a river which takes us with its flow… what we need to do is just sit back and enjoy this journey taking into account all the beautiful moments which we often miss!!

Guess, I am feeling very positive though I have been missing me, the carefree and unloaded ME for quite some time. Learning the mechanism to overcome the missing myself syndrome. What I believe right now is that, Living in the present and hope for future are the two possible ingredients in finding me . Hoping that such state of my mind remains for atleast some time as mood swings affect me a lot these days. :P

Life is about revelations….

"...Childhood was about faith and belief. Faith in the tooth fairy and in cartoon characters. Faith in God that He would hear a child’s prayer instantly. That time was about our unreal concepts of reality. How Superman was too good to be untrue, He-Man the Master of the Universe, and the Smurfs too small to be seen.

Life was about Revelations: learning that cartoons are just paper; that Big Bird was not really a bird, and that the Cookie Monster didn’t really eat all those cookies; that our clothes didn’t get smaller; we grew larger so they didn’t fit us; that the sun didn’t go round the earth, God didn’t live on the moon.

Life was about friends. And games. And color. And crayons, color-pencils and coloring books. It was about matching the dots to complete the picture. And about water balloons and paper airplanes. It was about stories. And innocence. And belief. And the truth.

But birthday after birthday, the bubble came closer to bursting. We grew up regardless of our wanting to grow up. It just happened. Time flowed on, taking us with it. We took a little while to realize where we had gotten. We are now showered with the responsibilities, and there are many expectations .We are required to do things which we used to think were 'grown up stuff'. Hallelujah, we are now officially 'all grown up'. Enter the new world, the big bad world of grown ups.

As we tread the path of life, we learn that there are only few people whom you can trust.. The process of learning this staring-at-you-right-in-the-face reality is, of course, a painful one. It’s a test of our patience, tolerance, and belief.

In the past you could join the dots and complete a picture. You would then color it and paste it on your bedroom door. Now, being a part of this big complicated world, it’s difficult even finding all the dots. Once you gather all of them, you fail to join them. Some betray you, some leave never to reappear, some you reject, and some just don’t fit in the picture. You are left with a half-colored, incomplete image. But you are still looking..."

Welcome 2008 :)

Well, another year goes by. I swear they're getting faster every year...

2007 was quite eventful for me... I changed job (again..) ;) Infact changed places... came back to my roots after spending a joyful and learning year in bangalore...!! Few relations became more stronger... though some relations made me learn a lot of important lessons for the rest of my life... luckily made few new good friends... for which i am very thankful to god.. :)

2007, especially towards the end was very hectic. I really wanna write more about this, however I don't really have much time.

So, I can only wish you dear friends... a very happy new year. May 2008 brings success, happiness, joy, love and prosperity to all of you..!!

Lots of love and best wishes from me!!

Happy Diwali....!!!

You can see the enthu in the air, the lights all around, the 'bheed'...people moving around places to wish their close ones the best of the festive season....it is the same as it is every year. One festival which is celebrated with full rigor in India...and why not, it is THE festival - of lights, of harmony, of homecoming!
But sometimes you just remain unaffected by things around you - as someone rightly said 'you loose the charm of things around'. You are not an ounce influenced by what happens around you. Life demands a lot from you and you do indulge in what is expected out of you, but within, your silence speaks all that you want to know. How is it when everything around you, the happiness, the spirit, the joyous festivity - everything comes to a standstill because you chose not to get involved? Can you really switch off your mind from everything else and be in your world? I can. I definitely can. It is sad and it hurts, but sometimes, you just get so influenced by life's pains...the way it shows happiness to some and hurts to few others.
I want to cry. Not for myself but for so many others who live within their own worlds - in silence.
But like I said, life demands, and I absolutely follow what life demands. I am going to celebrate the festival with my dear ones with a bang and wish all of you the very best in your life.

Does every relationship has an expiry date???

When I read this line “Every relationship has an expiry date” in the profile of a friend, for the lessons he learnt from past relationships, My mind races through the number of instances where I’ve caved in to accommodate somebody else or the number of times I’ve wished a person for their birthday or anniversary when said person doesn’t remember my existence, forget birthday.

Is it true that every single relationship romantic or otherwise has an expiry date? Is it true that every single relationship has an ulterior motive? The motive is achieved and the relationship lapses and is renewed only upon a fresh set of requirements? Or have we just given another person so much importance that they take you, your emotions and your needs for granted in an insensitive sort of way while you end up making excuses for the other person’s insensitivity since said person is a priority in your life?

But as per my opinion, every statement has multiple dimensions to it. It all depends on how we interpret them. For instance, for this statement in the very First look anyone can think it is very negative in nature. But, little more thought applied to it makes it more broader. It is "we", who define "expiry date". Not just for relationship, it virtually applies to everything.

Incase you are wondering why I am ranting about this, well I am just venting - retrospective effect. Nothing going on in my life right now that I regret :-) So I thank you God!

Where is GOD???

Interesting read... one of the funniest fwd's received... Grab a laugh... :)

Two little boys, ages 8 and 10, are extremely mischievous.

They are always getting into trouble and their parents know all about it.

If any mischief occurs in their town, the two boys are probably involved.

The boys' mother heard that a preacher in town had been successful in disciplining children, so she asked if he would speak with her boys.

The preacher agreed, but he asked to see them individually.

So the mother sent the 8 year old first, in the morning, with the older boy to see the preacher in the afternoon.

The preacher, a huge man with a booming voice, sat the younger boy down and asked him sternly,

"Do you know where God is, son?"

The boy's mouth dropped open, but he made no response, sitting there wide-eyed with his mouth hanging open.

So the preacher repeated the question in an even sterner tone, "Where is God?!"

Again, the boy made no attempt to answer. The preacher raised his voice even more and shook his finger in the boy's face and bellowed,

"Where is God?!"


The boy screamed and bolted from the room, ran directly home and dove into his closet, slamming the door behind him.


When his older brother found him in the closet, he asked, "What happened?"

The younger brother, gasping for breath, replied, "We are in BIG trouble this time.

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("I just LOVE reading next line again and again")

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Happy Friendship Day... :)

This post is dedicated to all my friends on the occasion of Friendship day, which falls on 5th August this year… (i.e., first Sunday of August)

Friendship day makes me wonder about my friends and my relations with them. Why do I need friends? I have work, my family members, and entertainment. What else do I need to live comfortably?

I guess I need friends because I want to share. I need friends because I need somebody who will be there with me when I fall into bad time. I need friends because I want to enjoy being in a group. I hate loneliness and family alone cannot make me feel in the group. For that I need friends, because I want to let somebody know about my deepest thought, my ideas, and my real emotions. Only a good friend can help me share all these.

We take many things for granted in our life. We take air for granted. We take it for granted that the sun will rise again. Similarly we take it for granted that the friendship will never suffer. But that is false. If we don’t water the plant of our friendship regularly, our friendship will suffer and we may create distance with our close friends. We need to value them and value their friendship. So on this occasion I would like to thank my friends for being with me in my happiest and saddest moments ever. Thanks for your lovely friendship. Happy Friendship Day..!! :)

Is keeping secrets really difficult......????

It is rightly said that one can share any secret with a true friend. Your true friend may know your deepest fears and weaknesses and yet will never take advantage of you. However, keeping a friend's secrets to yourself and not telling the world about is what makes the bond grow strong and last forever. You need to develop a trust and mutual understanding before you start sharing secrets with each other. With friends, secret talks never seem to end and it can get really amusing to know what has been going on in your friend's mind.

Guarding a secret is the same as guarding one’s chastity. Those who keep a secret, whether personal or a friend’s, keep themselves chaste. Conversely, those who spread secrets damage their honor and reputation by leaving them unguarded. I recently came across a blog wherein the blogger in the form of her views or perspectives revealed the personal life of her so called best friend…!!

So, here is my advice for the friend of blogger… If you want to tell someone a secret, be sure that you could trust him or her with your honor. He or she must be as meticulous about keeping your secret as he or she would be about his or her own honor. An unreliable person, one who is ignorant of the value of chastity, should not be entrusted with keeping your secret.

Keeping a secret and respecting the secrets of others, as opposed to prying into them, is a virtue related to self-discipline and sensitivity. Those who lack understanding cannot guard a secret, and those who do not care about the consequences of words and actions cannot be considered discreet.

It is usually wiser not to relate your private concerns to others. To do so can embarrass loved ones and delight enemies, and have other unpleasant consequences as well.

Hearts are created as safes for keeping secrets. Intelligence is their lock; will-power is their key. No one can break into the safe and steal its valuables if the lock or key are not faulty.

Bear in mind that those who carry others’ secrets to you might bear yours to others. Do not give such tactless people any chance to learn even the smallest details of your private concerns.

If you entrust another secret to someone who previously disclosed one, your lack of perception and poor judgment in choosing a confidant is plain for all to see. One whose own heart is firm on this matter and who is vigilant cannot be deceived and seduced repeatedly in this way.

By disclosing a personal secret, you are interfering with a person’s honor; by disclosing a family secret, you are interfering with the family’s honor. A secret is a power only as long as it stays with its owner, but is a weapon that may be used against its owner if it passes into the hands of others. This is the meaning of one of our traditional sayings: “The secret is your slave, but you become its slave if you disclose it.”

Explain what you must, but never give away all of your secrets. Those who freely publicize the secrets of their hearts drag themselves toward an inevitable downfall, but be very sure of trusting anyone before sharing your personal life with anyone.

EX-tra factor of Auto Guys in B’lore

Been in the city (Bangalore) for over 10 months now, I still feel like an alien…!! May be b’coz of the Ex-tra business here…. And, I need some EXTRA time to adjust to the culture of this city... !!

Just out of my office… there is always a long queue of AUTOs (almost 20 Autos if you literally count…) But… its not so easy to get a ride in any of these Autos… Even if they offer you a ride… that will have lotzzzzzz of conditions apply and what are those conditions… i have tried to list some of their CONDITIONS here...

It’s hard and just next to impossible to find an AUTO who goes by meter or doesn't charge any amount as EXTRA….

The rates are very complicated to understand… I am just wondering how come they calculate that how much to ask extra and when to ask…??

But one thing that I came across… And, I would like to share here…

In the day time (Day time hours are general 9 am-2 pm) they’ll charge 10 Rupees EXTRA for sure… But if you end up asking them WHY EXTRA??? The answer would be very simple… “MADAM… No RETURN… We have to come empty…”

Hey man I m not bothered wheather ur auto comes empty or filled… LOL

It’s not at possible to find an Auto between 2 pm – 4 pm… as its their Lunch time…!! Now, u might wonder… Are all the AUTO people are having lunch at the same time…?? Literally all the autos disappear from the road during these hours… :P But, u might get lucky at times as few auto guys (the good ones) can take you for a ride… but… but… that will happen only once in 1000… :D

As soon as the clock touches 6 in the evening, their rates goes off to One and half… The one and half is the Night fare which is officially permissible to Auto Guys after 9 pm…. But I guess their night starts at 6 pm and lasts till…….. I jus don’t wanna guess…

But…but… but… if they are charging u One and half of the meter after 6 only… wat u’ll pay after 9 pm… it could be anything they can ask you… Double… Ten Rupees Extra on Double…. Twenty rupees Extra on One and half…. !! And, just because… Their AUTO RETURNS EMPTY….!!
Ohhhh god… when does the Autos of these guys will be filled after dropping us and we’ll stop becoming victims of their Ex-tra business… :(