Happy Friendship Day... :)

This post is dedicated to all my friends on the occasion of Friendship day, which falls on 5th August this year… (i.e., first Sunday of August)

Friendship day makes me wonder about my friends and my relations with them. Why do I need friends? I have work, my family members, and entertainment. What else do I need to live comfortably?

I guess I need friends because I want to share. I need friends because I need somebody who will be there with me when I fall into bad time. I need friends because I want to enjoy being in a group. I hate loneliness and family alone cannot make me feel in the group. For that I need friends, because I want to let somebody know about my deepest thought, my ideas, and my real emotions. Only a good friend can help me share all these.

We take many things for granted in our life. We take air for granted. We take it for granted that the sun will rise again. Similarly we take it for granted that the friendship will never suffer. But that is false. If we don’t water the plant of our friendship regularly, our friendship will suffer and we may create distance with our close friends. We need to value them and value their friendship. So on this occasion I would like to thank my friends for being with me in my happiest and saddest moments ever. Thanks for your lovely friendship. Happy Friendship Day..!! :)

Is keeping secrets really difficult......????

It is rightly said that one can share any secret with a true friend. Your true friend may know your deepest fears and weaknesses and yet will never take advantage of you. However, keeping a friend's secrets to yourself and not telling the world about is what makes the bond grow strong and last forever. You need to develop a trust and mutual understanding before you start sharing secrets with each other. With friends, secret talks never seem to end and it can get really amusing to know what has been going on in your friend's mind.

Guarding a secret is the same as guarding one’s chastity. Those who keep a secret, whether personal or a friend’s, keep themselves chaste. Conversely, those who spread secrets damage their honor and reputation by leaving them unguarded. I recently came across a blog wherein the blogger in the form of her views or perspectives revealed the personal life of her so called best friend…!!

So, here is my advice for the friend of blogger… If you want to tell someone a secret, be sure that you could trust him or her with your honor. He or she must be as meticulous about keeping your secret as he or she would be about his or her own honor. An unreliable person, one who is ignorant of the value of chastity, should not be entrusted with keeping your secret.

Keeping a secret and respecting the secrets of others, as opposed to prying into them, is a virtue related to self-discipline and sensitivity. Those who lack understanding cannot guard a secret, and those who do not care about the consequences of words and actions cannot be considered discreet.

It is usually wiser not to relate your private concerns to others. To do so can embarrass loved ones and delight enemies, and have other unpleasant consequences as well.

Hearts are created as safes for keeping secrets. Intelligence is their lock; will-power is their key. No one can break into the safe and steal its valuables if the lock or key are not faulty.

Bear in mind that those who carry others’ secrets to you might bear yours to others. Do not give such tactless people any chance to learn even the smallest details of your private concerns.

If you entrust another secret to someone who previously disclosed one, your lack of perception and poor judgment in choosing a confidant is plain for all to see. One whose own heart is firm on this matter and who is vigilant cannot be deceived and seduced repeatedly in this way.

By disclosing a personal secret, you are interfering with a person’s honor; by disclosing a family secret, you are interfering with the family’s honor. A secret is a power only as long as it stays with its owner, but is a weapon that may be used against its owner if it passes into the hands of others. This is the meaning of one of our traditional sayings: “The secret is your slave, but you become its slave if you disclose it.”

Explain what you must, but never give away all of your secrets. Those who freely publicize the secrets of their hearts drag themselves toward an inevitable downfall, but be very sure of trusting anyone before sharing your personal life with anyone.