Is keeping secrets really difficult......????

It is rightly said that one can share any secret with a true friend. Your true friend may know your deepest fears and weaknesses and yet will never take advantage of you. However, keeping a friend's secrets to yourself and not telling the world about is what makes the bond grow strong and last forever. You need to develop a trust and mutual understanding before you start sharing secrets with each other. With friends, secret talks never seem to end and it can get really amusing to know what has been going on in your friend's mind.

Guarding a secret is the same as guarding one’s chastity. Those who keep a secret, whether personal or a friend’s, keep themselves chaste. Conversely, those who spread secrets damage their honor and reputation by leaving them unguarded. I recently came across a blog wherein the blogger in the form of her views or perspectives revealed the personal life of her so called best friend…!!

So, here is my advice for the friend of blogger… If you want to tell someone a secret, be sure that you could trust him or her with your honor. He or she must be as meticulous about keeping your secret as he or she would be about his or her own honor. An unreliable person, one who is ignorant of the value of chastity, should not be entrusted with keeping your secret.

Keeping a secret and respecting the secrets of others, as opposed to prying into them, is a virtue related to self-discipline and sensitivity. Those who lack understanding cannot guard a secret, and those who do not care about the consequences of words and actions cannot be considered discreet.

It is usually wiser not to relate your private concerns to others. To do so can embarrass loved ones and delight enemies, and have other unpleasant consequences as well.

Hearts are created as safes for keeping secrets. Intelligence is their lock; will-power is their key. No one can break into the safe and steal its valuables if the lock or key are not faulty.

Bear in mind that those who carry others’ secrets to you might bear yours to others. Do not give such tactless people any chance to learn even the smallest details of your private concerns.

If you entrust another secret to someone who previously disclosed one, your lack of perception and poor judgment in choosing a confidant is plain for all to see. One whose own heart is firm on this matter and who is vigilant cannot be deceived and seduced repeatedly in this way.

By disclosing a personal secret, you are interfering with a person’s honor; by disclosing a family secret, you are interfering with the family’s honor. A secret is a power only as long as it stays with its owner, but is a weapon that may be used against its owner if it passes into the hands of others. This is the meaning of one of our traditional sayings: “The secret is your slave, but you become its slave if you disclose it.”

Explain what you must, but never give away all of your secrets. Those who freely publicize the secrets of their hearts drag themselves toward an inevitable downfall, but be very sure of trusting anyone before sharing your personal life with anyone.

EX-tra factor of Auto Guys in B’lore

Been in the city (Bangalore) for over 10 months now, I still feel like an alien…!! May be b’coz of the Ex-tra business here…. And, I need some EXTRA time to adjust to the culture of this city... !!

Just out of my office… there is always a long queue of AUTOs (almost 20 Autos if you literally count…) But… its not so easy to get a ride in any of these Autos… Even if they offer you a ride… that will have lotzzzzzz of conditions apply and what are those conditions… i have tried to list some of their CONDITIONS here...

It’s hard and just next to impossible to find an AUTO who goes by meter or doesn't charge any amount as EXTRA….

The rates are very complicated to understand… I am just wondering how come they calculate that how much to ask extra and when to ask…??

But one thing that I came across… And, I would like to share here…

In the day time (Day time hours are general 9 am-2 pm) they’ll charge 10 Rupees EXTRA for sure… But if you end up asking them WHY EXTRA??? The answer would be very simple… “MADAM… No RETURN… We have to come empty…”

Hey man I m not bothered wheather ur auto comes empty or filled… LOL

It’s not at possible to find an Auto between 2 pm – 4 pm… as its their Lunch time…!! Now, u might wonder… Are all the AUTO people are having lunch at the same time…?? Literally all the autos disappear from the road during these hours… :P But, u might get lucky at times as few auto guys (the good ones) can take you for a ride… but… but… that will happen only once in 1000… :D

As soon as the clock touches 6 in the evening, their rates goes off to One and half… The one and half is the Night fare which is officially permissible to Auto Guys after 9 pm…. But I guess their night starts at 6 pm and lasts till…….. I jus don’t wanna guess…

But…but… but… if they are charging u One and half of the meter after 6 only… wat u’ll pay after 9 pm… it could be anything they can ask you… Double… Ten Rupees Extra on Double…. Twenty rupees Extra on One and half…. !! And, just because… Their AUTO RETURNS EMPTY….!!
Ohhhh god… when does the Autos of these guys will be filled after dropping us and we’ll stop becoming victims of their Ex-tra business… :(